Too often we set out in search of perfection.
The perfect partner, the perfect job, the perfect answer, mood, feeling or state of mind. But we never really stop to ask ourselves where these ideas of perfection come from…
What is it that I am looking for? Why am I looking for that?
Perfection is a memory. It is an expectation of the future based on past experiences. Essentially we are using the highs and lows of our past to define an objective for the future, all the while ignoring the present moment. We are trying to navigate through a territory that has yet to come into being using a map that is outdated.
This sort of goal-oriented consciousness will run us in circles, which is to say we will always find ourselves right back where we started. Then, having run in circles for forty years, we wake up one day in the midst of a mid-life crisis, wondering what in the hell we have been doing for all these years! This is not to say that we cannot be happy.
Far from it!
We enjoy life when we are present because that is where life is! Paying attention enables us to participate in the present moment. Not just participate, but be ourselves, and that is all anybody really wants.
We all yearn to be our Self and our hearts will be restless until we consent to that longing. Who we truly are is the source of our deepest desires.
We ignore these opportunities when we become obsessed with who we should be. We must question our ideas about perfection. The perfect meal is not always fillet mignon. Sometimes a hot dog next to a camp fire is as good as it gets!
In the video below Malcolm Gladwell questions the institution of perfection. Gladwell is a journalist, author, and brilliant public speaker with a knack for thinking outside the box. Using an unlikely analogy Malcolm Gladwell questions the idea of limited choices, and suggests that there are always tons of possibilities—even if you do not see them!